I’ve been thinking about making this post for a while, but today’s the first time I’ve had an opportunity to do so.
Women are socialised to always accommodate males; we are taught to pander to them and priortise their wants over our own needs. We are taught to be bleeding hearts, ready to help anyone before fighting for our own rights. Men, however, are taught to be entitled— they genuinely believe they are OWED the submission and acceptance and sexual availability of women. Trans women, no matter how hard you try to weasel your way out of acknowledging biology, are males. They are male born, male socialised, male bodied, male privileged. This does not change the moment they begin to identify as women, and it’s blindingly obvious in the way they demand our acceptance of them in our movement. They attack us with death threats, rape threats, threats of bodily harm, misogynistic slurs, and finally with guilt-inducing cries of “you’re denying our humanity” when we dare to oppose them or maintain our stance on born-women only spaces. They know they can intimidate women, they know that we’ve been raised to accommodate men; they know their manipulative cries of pain will trigger our socialised feelings of guilt and empathy, and women will work to prioritise them all over again. This, however, is not reciprocated. When women ask for our own rights, when we have the audacity to seek respect for ourselves and learn to love our bodies, we are attacked again by transwomen who feel disoriented by not being the centre of attention as always, and we must deal with accusations of “transphobia” for not reducing ourselves to “uterus bearers” and walking vaginae. When a lesbian woman asks for sexual autonomy, she is called a bigot for not wanting to have sex with a male bodied person. When a rape victim wants to visit a female-only shelter at her must vulnerable state, she is attacked again by her so called “allies” who demand they too be given entry, simply for identifying as women, despite never facing the same struggles, the same hardships, the same experiences. When we discuss our periods, after having been taught to be ashamed of our bodies, we are again reprimanded by the “allies” and their handmaidens for being “disgusting” and “transmisogynistic”.
Trans women, and transfeminism, seek to erase women and lesbians by defining us out of existence. The second we quote biology, we are shouted over and called bigots. The second we ask for some private spaces, we are called bigots. When we talk about our experiences, we are silenced and shunned (much like by non-woman-identifying men), when we say ANYTHING that disagrees with trans ideology we are crucified, when we dare say women have a right to set boundaries, we are flooded with death threats. Misgendering is seen as worse than telling a woman to go and die and flooding her with misogynistic slurs, because apparently even the self-identification of males means more to these people than the lives of women. Lesbian women are erased and called bigots for wanting sexual autonomy. Our spaces are being penetrated violently by these males who feel they ARE ENTITLED to our submission, spaces, sexual availability and unquestioning acceptance. They are working to destroy women, they and MRAs are one and the same.
Don’t believe me? Try it yourself. Have the audacity to say abortion is a woman’s issue. Try to say that women should be free from harassment for wanting female only spaces. Try to say that women and men are biologically different. Try to say that transgenderism relies on harmful stereotypes of women and gender to exist in the same way transethnicity relies on harmful stereotypes of cultures. Try to say anything against the mindless chanting of the trans cult (trans women are women if they say they are) and just wait for the death threats to roll in. By saying trans women are male, we are in NO WAY dehumanising them, males are very much human. They are trying again and again to emotionally manipulate women into forgetting our own needs. These people have said time and time again that born white males face more misogyny than women of colour, poor women, lesbian/bi women, differently abled women. They are toxic, they are harmful, and they WILL succeed in erasing us; they already have in many ways. Women are 51% of the population, and feminism is supposed to be liberating us, but all conversations revolve around the 0.01% of trans women. Trans women don’t CARE that women are being raped, killed, mutilated, burnt, stabbed, abused by their husbands, thoroughly dehumanised on a daily basis, their genitals are destroyed, they are seen as wastes of human life; the trans women will continue to overemphasise their own 30 deaths a year and completely ignore what women have to endure. They will conveniently avoid these facts in order to support their bigotry and main goal; that is, to destroy women’s spaces and our reality.
Feminism is about FEMALES. Please keep it this way.
hedonisticparadise, I know we differ on some issues, but this is an amazing post and I appreciate it very much.